ROW 80 – Six Years Sober

May 26, 2006 was my first sober day. It was two days before my eldest daughter’s sixteenth birthday.  Saturday I celebrated six years! It has been a roller coaster of emotions, trials, experiences, ups, downs and all-arounds.

I can’t say it was easy all the time.  The first three months were the “pink cloud” of getting clean and sober.  It’s the cloud of high hopes we talk about in the rooms, groups and such.  We all hop on the cloud and say things like “this is so great!  I’ll never pick up again!” and we all mean it. I meant it.

I remember in one group, the counselor asked everyone “if you could have your drug/drink of choice without any consequences, would you drink/use?” A few people answered and said, “yes!” “absolutely!” “hell yeah!”

When the question came to me, I answered “no.”  The counselor said, “but you have no consequences.” I said, “that is not a hypothetical I want to talk about, because it’s bullshit.  I will always have consequences if I pick up.”

I guess I thought, if I start talking in hypothetical mumbo jumbo so early in my recovery, I won’t make it.  And I had to make it.  If I didn’t make it, I would die.

These days, my worst day sober is better than my best day drunk or high.  I have learned so much about myself I continue to be amazed of what I am capable of!  I love to push the limits as I travel my journey never knowing what the next day holds.

And I do it One Day At A Time.

My ROW80 Goals/Progress are as follows!

  • continue to edit manuscript (I am making headway!)
  • AA meeting Tuesday night!
  • get back into Flash Fiction Friday (I just haven’t had any ideas!)
  • Triberr three times a week to share posts.
  • Read a book! (I have so many waiting – I haven’t decided yet)

That is my goal list for the week.  How is everyone else coming along?  Hope you are enjoying the holiday weekend!



  1. Congrats on six years sober!

  2. Huge congratulations, Darlene! That is so awesome and you are such an inspiration. 🙂

  3. showard76 says:

    Congratulations! What an achievement 😀 Here’s to the next 6 years!

    As for Flash Fiction, I have a few prompt ideas from Arvon if you want to try them?

  4. Well done, Darlene. Here’s to your will, your choices and your wonderful future. Huge congratulations. Best Niamh

  5. Powerful stuff. You’re right, hypothetical stakes-free questions aren’t what real life is about. I wish you continued success!

  6. Awesome Darlene! Congrats to you. That is amazing. I wish you continued success. 🙂

  7. “I love to push the limits as I travel my journey never knowing what the next day holds.”
    It’s a great attitude to life Darlene. Congratulations again on your great milestone. Here’s to the next six years—or maybe I’ll make that simply ‘here’s to today!’

  8. Wendy Lu says:

    You have a cute, colorful blog! I love it! Sounds like you’ve come a long way since six years ago…kudos to you for being so strong for yourself and your family. Good luck on your ROW80 goals for the week. 🙂

  9. Congratulations!!

  10. Congrats Darlene, amazing achievement!

  11. Huge congrats, Darlene, that is a major and worthy accomplishment! Stay strong and have a super week 🙂 (p.s. – hint – noticed you weren’t in the Linky).

  12. Happy Birthday Darlene, and congratulations on another day!

  13. Congrats, Darlene! Our years are made one day at a time. Keep at it!
    ~~ “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”, Annie Dillard ~~

  14. Awesome sauce! So proud of you for staying sober and making it toward your goals.

  15. Great going! Keep up the good work and just remind yourself…you’ve gone six years. You can go six more. Proud of you. I’m sure your kids are, too.

  16. Joanna Aislinn says:

    Hey Darlene–you rock and wax awesome, girl! Be proud of your amazing achievements and getting early on the mindset to get to where you are now and the drive to falter not. I too am inspired and thrilled to know one more person is free. I wish you time and focus as you cross off this week’s goals! 🙂

  17. You have a lot to be thankful for. Just remember that on those roller coaster days when the coaster is headed down, you have a lot of people out here you’ve never met who are rooting for you. You’re never alone.

  18. Well done Darlene! You are the greatest! What an incredible achievement!

  19. Congratulations Darlene! That is very inspiring! Best of luck for whatever the future holds for you! 🙂


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